sexual purity

Hello singles!
Hello engaged
Hello about-to-be-married chap!

As you all know, today, November 14 is world’s sexual purity day. So, shout out to virgins and those who though, are no longer virgins but who have by the grace of God decided to stay sexually pure.

As a lady, you have all it takes to attract a man.
Your hair, eyes, nose, lips, breast, fingers,hips, buttocks, legs, walk/gait, accent etc are enough selling point for you. Sincerely yours, a lady have a whole lots of things to have a man without opening your laps for a guy.

For you guys, cash, charm, charisma also is enough selling points for you.

Others include having a good heart of gold, being compassionate and kindhearted.

Another selling point is, good attitude, being cultured, respectful and of a good etiquette- all these and many more attract good relationships (marriage inclusive).

Please and please, look inwards, take a mirror and look at your physical beauty, take a Bible and also see who you are, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, a peculiar people, believe you me don’t trade yourself cheaply.



Stay pure
Stay undefiled (body and heart).
Be morally sane
Avoid the decadence of sex, fornication, masturbation, pornography, blue film, reading M&B, hints and so on that corrupts you and make you ‘hungry and thirsty for sex’.

Why awake love before its time?

Sincerely yours, if a man hasn’t paid your bride price, no need to show him your breast, laps and sexual organs.
Don’t allow ‘looky looky’ let alone ‘touchy touchy’.

As ladies/girls are being lured to sex, in my few years of counselling, I have seen guys and wonderful brothers been lured too – and most fell!
So, let him who think he stand take heed less he fall!…selah.

Our parents and loved ones admonished us back then to stay pure….and we did despite the allurement with recharge card, phone, visits to boutiques and eateries, trip abroad, offer of job, birthday gift and so on.

May God help you as you decide to stay pure.
Cover your nakedness, don’t be source of defilement/seduction to the opposite sex.
Don’t begin what you can’t finish.

See, let me tell you, poverty isn’t an excuse to be wayward. In the same vein, being born with a silver spoon should also not expose you to waywardness.

NB: i am not talking about virginity alone but sexual purity in all entirety.




remain pure first for god, yourself, your future spouse and a good memory lane for the future and your unborn children.




Hospitality is a virtue, a gift and an etiquette that should be coveted and practised. It means entertainment of guest in a friendly and generous manner. It includes giving attention, exchanging pleasantries from your heart, giving a seat, a cup of cold water and making the guest as comfortable as possible.

I respect and appreciate the hospitality of the northerners (Young and Old, Christian and Muslim). It’s so charming.

the secret to hospitality is this, the person you are doing it to appreciate and feels it much more than the host. it goes  a long way and gives a positive lasting impression to the beneficiary.

I even know someone who met the spouse simply because of the virtue of hospitality.

now, let’s brainstorm a little,

If someone superior to you in your church, office or neighbourhood decides to pay you a visit, how will you entertain him/her? Whatever your answer is shows that you are knowledgeable about hospitality. but knowledge without action proves something – you do not possess the virtue! You have replaced hospitality with hostility (unfriendliness and fierceness).

Worthy of mention here is that guest should respect themselves and act maturely when being hosted well. When visiting, you can also go along with a gift for the family and the children. That way, it’s going to be mutual. Have you ever noticed? The first time you visited someone, you were given chilled fruit juice and a good meal – as an august visitor, i guess!

The second time malt (routine visitor)

Subsequently,  just water.

hehehehe… You better don’t become an unwanted visitor wherein you won’t even be offered a glass of water, let alone a seat. i implore you not to misuse opportunities.

Don’t hesitate to be hospitable and also don’t be hostile because you will find yourself in the same shoe sooner or later. that’s the gospel truth!

Do unto others as you would want them to do unto you.




“And above all things have fervent charity among yourselves: for charity shall cover a multitude of sins

Use hospitality one to another without grudging

As every man has received the gift, even so minister the same one to another, as good stewards of the grace of God.“

I Peter 4:8-10.



Be your brother’s keeper

Are you Christ’s disciple?

Do you know that as a disciple of Christ you need to watch over one another?


Shepherd watching over sheep, sheep watching over lambs, so that no one in the  flock is devoured by the wolves.

Any attempt to touch the young ones of an animal will reveal the hostility of such mother who perhaps was previously friendly. She knows the young ones are still fragile and knows she is responsible for their wellbeing.

In a family, (either blood linked, members of a church or neighbours) each and everyone of us have one or more people we share something with. Who is your brother/sister (not necessarily blood linked)?

Have you been a good keeper to him/her?

Are you a Good Samaritan?




Don’t pretend or deny that you have no one to watch over. Parents have their children to watch over, guardians have their ward, husbands have their wives, teachers have their students, leaders have their followers, masters their servants, employers their employees, mentors have mentee, and pastors their congregation.

We need to stop looking for someone’s downfall or rejoicing in another’s calamity, let’s think of a way of escape when we see people in trouble. Don’t assign people to do what you can personally –  especially if it is an emergency.

We should not be traitors or betrayals.

Remember one good turns deserve another. in the long run, we shall reap all the good/bad seed sown.

Kindly watch out for those you can be of help to, and those you have to be a keeper to. Peradventure you have not been doing it, take up the responsibility.

it will be unfair and even selfishness on your part, if you are like Cain who asked about his own blood brother, am I my brother’s keeper?

Instead have a brand new personality and a positive disposition to people and situations.

Say, “I am my brother’s keeper”.

Luke 10:30-37 contains the parable of the good Samaritan, please endeavour to study it.

“And as ye would that men should do to you, do ye also to them likewise.

For if ye love them which love you , what thank have ye? For sinners also love those that love them.

And if you lend to them of whom ye hope to receive, what thank have ye? For sinners also lend to sinners to receive as much gain

Be ye therefore merciful as your father also is merciful”

Luke 6;31-36


 Your question might now be, “how can I be my brothers keeper?”

you can stand in the gap through prayers

you can give/share money, clothing, possessions

you can support and cheer one another up

you can and should forewarn your brother of any danger ahead

you can correct, rebuke and exhort in love

God help us

#one love#



Soul ties

So many people especially ladies are still connected to an Ex fantasizing about the nice times they had spent together. When they remember the lovely moments, even though they smile at such memories, they end up shedding tears or regretting their actions all over again…a part of their Ex is still with them, they have refused to let go completely!

 They wish and pray the relationship is restored. They cringe when anyone mentions his/her name.

When they see that Ex, their heartbeat fastens in fear or excitement.


Evn when another proposal came, you kept comparing such Ex with every suitor and feel he isn’t up to the standard. For how long will you hold on to the past?
Till forever?

Why put new wine in old bottle?

Don’t you know if he/she broke the relationship, you broke the relationship or maybe the relationship ended forcefully by whatever circumstance, you are to forget and not look back?

If the other party is not feeling the pain of the heartbreak where he/she is, why should you cry and hurt alone?
Why are you at the receiving end?

You broke up a relationship and barely a month after, your Ex has dusted him/herself up and has conveniently commenced another relationship, it shows over and over, that you are the one still holding on while the other party has moved on.

One week
One month
One year

You are still missing him/her?
Still wishing he/she comes back to you?

and you say you are still in love with him/her?


My admonition to you is to break that soul tie. When a relationship ends, please cut off all soul tie.

Remove the pet name (crown, honey, sweetie etc) you saved his/her contact with on your phone or diary.

Remove or give out their gifts if it will continuously remind you about them. There is nothing you need their pictures for again

Pray out the residual love you have for him/her from your conscious and subconscious mind.

Rid your heart off him/her by occupying your heart and time with songs, prayer, humanitarian services, trainings and stuffs that count
Pamper yourself

Be happy.

Remember this, if he/she really loves you, they won’t make you cry – that’s the truth!

See, dear hurting one, the decision to love and not to love again solely lies in your hands.

If you chose to keep hurting, it’s your choice.
But I will rather advice you to cut of all soul ties, consciously and deliberately decide to stop loving them – that is the first step to your healing!

Take your burdens to the Lord and LEAVE IT THERE instead of carrying about the heavy weight of worry, hurt and sleepless nights.

Will you be able to do without him?…yes you will!
Will you be able to love some else as much as you love her?…assuredly yes!
Will you be able to trust another guy/lady?…very much possible

Only if you cut that soul tie!

There has been record of reunion after some weeks , months or years of breakup, if it happens that your Ex comes back begging for you to resume your relationship, kudos to you! You can start up the relationship if you are not hooked up by the time he/she returns.

BUT PLEASE, before you start off, bring up the issue of contention that caused the break up, thrash it well and be sure it won’t spring up again  to cause another breakup.

And please note, if after every breakup, a particular partner keeps coming back and  meets you readily available, it might become a routine of breakup-reunion, which is usually straining!. You have to prevent playing a second fiddle for an unstable man/lady who is on and off.




Sitting in the living room ,watching film with others this evening something dropped into my heart that I thought to share here.

After the chores and dinner, we decided to watch film and my girl inserted Korean love film – You know all these love film that will have like 8seasons.


And then I remembered how I use to watch it so well during my singles days…praying for the good character to be favoured…praying that the evil/deceptive character should meet her waterloo. Praying and binding on top film!

I asked few questions from my girl cos she has previously watched the film before… And she was putting me through to the best of her knowledge.

O my my…those days I had the luxury of time. But now not anymore. I eventually stood up after few minutes cos I had to prepare my kids for bed.

Now to the lessons the Holy Spirit gave to me for SETsters…

You all know there is a film writer at the back ground
There is a scripts/storyline
And there is definitely gonna be an end


Now follow me closely,
Do you know the film writer and the film director had it all planned out?…their is a path and there is an end, there is a template which the film director must follow irrespective of if it’s bad or good story line. Writer, editor and all the crew involved including the makeup artist follow the script as much as possible.


Also, my girl has a knowledge of the story line and thus could put me through while watching the film? She differentiated personalities and roles when I almost got confused.

If could ask her “Is this not the groom “? she corrected and told me its the groom’s sibling instead.
“Where is this then?”… ” this is the grooms father’s office”…OK I get now!

…That was how useful she was during the brief period I was present to watch the film. If she wasn’t there, I would definitely get it on my own but not easily or rapidly.

√√ Beloved, you have to recognize and accept the fact that there is an higher authority, a master planner, a master builder, God almighty who is concerned about your entire life, who has a script well written!

He has it all planned out and it will end well in Jesus name.

All you need do is give your life to Christ, believe in Him, trust Him more than ever before.
He will bring His plan and purpose to pass in your life only if you are truly willing for Him to pattern and orchestrate your life according to His choice.

Take note; He doesn’t struggle with an unwilling vessel.

God knows the best way to bring His perfect plan to fulfilment. You have to trust and obey every of His injunction that you will get through the Holy Spirit and through the word of God.

√√ Moreover, there is the place of counsellors, mentors, spiritual leaders and biological parents and by the grace of God, a godly group like this(SINGLES, ENGAGED AND ABOUT TO MARRY) – which you can’t shun. They are placed there on your destiny path to aid you.

Do not underestimate their role in your life. Just make sure he/she will guide you aright jot someone that will push you into a wrong marriage.

Take note that I said, my girl has previously watched the film and so I was able to ask her questions along the line.

God has placed godly counsellors along the line who will talk from their personal experience, their interactions with other people and much more as the Holy Spirit inspires them.

All in all, let the Master planner orchestrate His plan for you.
Let the “Almighty Director” lead and guide you…to your safe haven and a home of marital Bliss.


We are all familiar with the story of Adam and Eve. Worthy of discuss today is d story of garden of eden which I want us to learn from.

Friends, roommate, a particular course mate, prayer partner and most especially marriage partner have from small to huge role to play on our destiny journey and can make/mar our relationship with God.

Garden of Eden…. Is a place of rest, a place of purpose and a place of superb intimacy with God.



Adam was fulfilling purpose in the garden of eden until…. He expelled himself and family out of that beautiful habitation.

Beloved, be careful of those you allow to partner with you and those you partner with. Some you can decide/chose… Some you can reject…. Some you of them you can chose again if you realize you are not comfortable with them… While some you can’t replace.

If you partner with a person who will push you out of the garden of Eden…. You know what you stand to lose… You lose many things and gain nothing!




Now to marital relationships….

Single sisters/married women… pray well and build up yourself in the most holy faith so that you don’t push your Adam out of his garden of Eden.
You are his helpmeet
be a plus to that marriage not minus.
be a star and not a thorn
Be a counsellor and not a confusionist

Single brothers/married men… Pray well, chose well, be watchful and don’t allow a woman push you out of that beautiful habitation.
The great intimacy you have with your heavenly Father, please cherish and sustain.

If you are in a relationship(marital/non-marital) and your priorities become misplaced… Your spiritual temperature declines…. Your spiritual power decrease…. Your dedication/zeal fizzles out then you know something is wrong either with you or your partner.

If each time you leave your partner, you feel guilty or you have to confess and ask for forgiveness cos of gossip, filthy talking, fornication, lies and so on…. Then you should know that you are already out of the garden of eden. If not sooner or later, you will finally be out.


We need partners that will sustain the father/child relationship we’ve been having with God before they came into our lives

We want to remain close to God…
We want partners that will make us fulfil purpose and together we get to that promised land.
It’s possible!

Rachel Ogunsanwo




Olowogbogboro showed himself great in a family’s life this week. It’s a miracle of the century.

Help me shout halleluyah

Of course it ended in praise.


Following the antenatal care and several advice that has been given to the pregnant wife which she adhered to- this lady got into labour and by the time she got to the hospital, she was 8cm dilated.

She tried o!



that’s pretty good!

you can say that again and again.

But alas, the labour continued several hours but the baby couldn’t come out. They waited and waited, then the hubby informed some people, not more than 8 who stood in gap with the family.

The prayer and labour continued for ten hours when by the leading of the spirit, the least in age (though with the highest anointing) declared…let us all begin praying in tongues.

We all began the praying in the spirit in different part of the country where we were located.

And a miracle happened!

Ask me how?

Due to the pain and the fact that the head of the baby had changed direction, the surgeons in that teaching hospital suggested a caesarean birth after more than twelve hours of serious excruciating labour…which the wife and husband eventually agreed to.

Not aware that a chain prayer was on for them…the doctors prepared the woman for surgery and wheeled her to the theatre. 

On getting to the entrance of the theatre, what happened that evening was shocking to all present. The theatre door refuse to open despite all they did. While they were still trying to fix and get themselves into the ward for the caeserean operation – lo and behold…blood gush out on it’s own accord and the baby popped out.


isn’t the Lord great?

Praises to master Jesus.

Of a truth, God specializes in miracle.

Why spend that much, why worry, why carry your burden alone, why go through that pain when Christ has paid the price for you…

keep trusting!

And it will surely end in praise.