Often times, sisters will think within themselves, say it out, worry, weep in despair pray passionately about the fact that “bro” has not shown face.

“Bro has not shown face o”!
“no guy has proposed”!
“I am expecting”
“I am praying” 
lots and lots of complains, anxiety on premarital issues.




The truth is… Most times though not all the time, when a sister delays before marrying or let’s us say before getting proposal, it is most probably because our dear brother is furthering in his studies and hence the assumed delay. some other rguy might not even be studying but rather making more money or building more investment such that he will be ready made before venturing into marriage.

It could also be because there is one or more attitudinal or barbaric character that God wants him to denounce or shed off… Especially in this era, where we  hear all sort of strange things, it’s pathetic to hear marriage crashing  after few hours, days or week. So wait, let God do the shaking and pruning. let God work on his manners, his emotions and also his will, so that the man you marry can be a good husband to you, good father to your children, good head, leader, priest, provider and protector.

Listen, it is not only about proposal anymore,  it is now about a good purposeful proposal that will lead into a blissful marriage.

Moreover, God might be restructuring, panel beating, repackaging the guy for the great anointing, gift and talent you carry…Wait, let God increase the brother’s capacity to accommodate and carry your great purpose!

Can you see that it actually worth the wait.
It surely is!


The onus thereafter lies on you- as the sister- to be prepared and well ready for that wonderfully prepared partner.

After you have prayed and the Lord says, “my daughter wait” – Just obey!

God is pruning or enriching the brother on his end – and also working on you.

However long it takes, whatever transpire during the waiting time, just make sure your words and actions are positively inclined and mixed with faith.

Please don’t because of rush, impatience, envy, competition, go for a fake or substandard product, the real and genuine one is almost here.

You have need of patience…and faith!




waiting time…preparing time

waiting time…praying time and when i mean praying, i mean prayers not game playing.

waiting time NOT worrying time.

People testify (spinsters and bachelors), thanking God they waited. You will too!



Author: myhavillah

Wife, mother, author, artiste, counselor. a veterinary doctor and a researcher too. I love to use my personal stories, anonymous true life stories, fictions and inspirations I get per time to encourage someONE -and that someone could be you! you can as well ask questions or chat me up for your premarital counselling. shallom!


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